Chores the Montessori Way

Every time my children whine about not getting allowance my response is, “No one pays me to make my bed. Why should I pay you to make yours?” And it clicks.

That said, I have struggled with how to go about chores at home. With no incentive, it can be difficult to convince a child to do something they don’t want to do.

Trying to find a solution, I started thinking about the structure of “Work Jobs” in my oldest daughter’s Montessori classroom (with ages 6-9).

At school there are 46 children in the class (with five teachers). Actually, they call it a community instead of a class. Each child gets a weekly work job they are responsible for doing.

The Montessori Way – Implementing Work Jobs at Home

The jobs include things like wash the dishes (they have a sink and use reusable dishes for snack and drinks), sweep the deck, bathroom duty, tidy the coats and lunch bags, snack assistant to help with setting up snack, wash the tables after lunch, take out the trash and compost….and so on.

Many of the same tasks take place in a home setting.

My solution is to have weekly work jobs at our house, in addition to the things I expect the girls to everyday.

I tell them these things have to get done and I don’t want to be only person doing them.

Living the Montessori Way, Everyone needs to help do their part, just like you do at school.

The Montessori Way – Rewards and Planning

If everyone cooperates with a good attitude throughout the week, we walk over to Coolato Gelato after church on Sunday for lunch and gelato. It’s a reward we get to share together.

Also on Sunday, the new Work Jobs for Girls list gets made and taped to the basement door in the kitchen, next to the trash cans and children’s cleaning tools. We also write out our weekly menu and the girls decide what they are going to make for dinner that week.

They help make the work job list. It’s not Pinterest-perfect but it gets the point across.

To make the Montessori way more fun, we use a pair Toss the Chore Dice while writing the weekly list. The girls got them in their stockings at Christmas (from Chinaberry) but I can’t find them in stock anywhere now.

It would work just as well to use regular dice and set up a system with each number designated to a specific chore. That way you could customized it to your family’s household needs and ages.

We start out with the dice, but adapt the outcome based on age and ability. It worked great when my three-year-old got wash the windows. That is a practical life lesson found in most all 3-6 age Montessori classrooms. I set up a basket and put it in front of low windows in the mudroom for her to reach.

Setting the table is another good one for her. We keep our daily dishes and glasses in drawers in our kitchen where she can reach.

The Montessori Way – Learning Through Observation

A great part of the Montessori learning process is observation. I’ve seen this as a parent work in several ways, from having a studious kid who leads the pack to a not-so-studious kid who likes to observe, be the jokester and benefits from the Montessori way by standards that are exactly opposite on the spectrum.

Therefore, I know they learn a lot by observing a parent or sibling doing work jobs and chores on a daily basis. I have put my hope in these Montessori philosophies before, waiting for that light bulb moment to go off. It always does, even though for some it’s quicker than others.

But the one thing I have learned with the Montessori way, is that the most is that children exceed at things when they are ready and willing, and can clearly take ownership over the task.

The Montessori Way – Philosophy Behind Not Paying Allowance

So while they might not always do these work jobs happily, or perfectly – or some days at all – I know they are benefiting from the routine of things, and knowing these expectations are placed on them.

I ask them to help each other, and they do! Especially pitching in to help the youngest girl. There is a huge lesson in that and working together.

That is why I cannot bring myself to pay them an allowance. I want them to do chores because it’s the right thing to do, they choose to do it, and because they see other family members doing it. When they learn to make their beds flat, I want to see a proud smile on their face instead of an expectation of getting a buck. This is the Montessori Way.

Making a big bed is a tall for a child 1/4 the size of the bed. Every smile I see from my middle girl makes me smile. The hugs that follow are good too.

by Rebecca Simmons